Why You’re Still Stuck (And How to Break the Cycle for Good)

Let’s cut the polite nonsense.

If you feel stuck right now—whether it's business, fitness, relationships—it's not because life is unfair.

It’s because you're trapped in a cycle you built yourself.

And here’s the kicker:

You’ve gotten comfortable being stuck.
It feels familiar. Predictable.
You know how to navigate “almost making progress” better than actually breaking through.

So today, let’s dismantle that cycle, piece by piece.
No sugarcoating. Just the truth.

The Real Reason You’re Stuck: Identity Lag

Everyone talks about mindset.
Everyone talks about habits.
But few talk about this:

Your results will never outgrow your identity.

Most people operate from an outdated version of themselves:

• The person who tries to be disciplined but still identifies as inconsistent

• The person who wants to be successful but still thinks like someone struggling

• The person who plans to get healthy but still self-identifies as “lazy” or “not built for it”

The problem isn’t effort.
It’s that deep down, you’re still running on the old identity software.

You might set new goals...
But your default behaviors snap you right back to who you think you are.

That’s why you feel like you're taking two steps forward, three steps back.

How to Kill the Cycle: Identity First, Habits Second

Here’s what high-performers do differently:

They shift identity before results show up.

It’s uncomfortable.
It feels fake at first.
But it’s how the game is won.

Example:

Instead of saying, “I’m trying to get disciplined,”
You say: “I’m a disciplined person. Period.”

You don't negotiate with yourself.
You don’t outsource your identity to feelings or failures.

Here’s the 3-step framework I’ve used to do this (and watched others use to break out FAST):

1) Define Your Non-Negotiable Identity

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